Que sera sera

What does it do to a person to be rendered completely helpless? And what if that person has always been a control freak, someone who needed to be running the show (and, often, running everyone else's lives as well)?

I think it can go two ways... the person could sigh, realize not everything in life is within our control and relinquish themselves to "que sera sera." Somehow I think that's the better way to handle a loss of control over life. Then there's the other reaction. The denial, the anger at the world at large, the refusal to change with circumstances. It's incredibly destructive -- for everyone.

It can't be easy to be relatively young (as in, not a grandparent as yet) and unable to function normally. But you've got to wonder at the purpose being served by pushing people away at a time like this. Sometimes I think age has nothing to do with wisdom.